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Book Review: Losing The Mask by Diane Karchner

What do you fear?

For many of us, we fear failure.  We simply don’t want to get it wrong.  We want to be right.  We don’t want to risk the possibility of letting others and ourselves down.  And so, we often lead a life of paralysis.  We miss out on life worth living, because we won’t take a leap of faith.

In Losing the Mask: Overcoming the Fear of Failure, Diane Karchner tackles her own fears and puts them on display for all to see.  She provides valuable insights into what it takes to overcome our fears, and she encourages readers to take the next steps in removing masks in our lives.

I love this quote from the book,

At the end of my days, I don’t wish for any successes to be applauded, nor talents bragged about, as if that was all there was to me.  Rather, I want my eulogy to read that I was ‘a woman who risked a lot, failed a lot, and always got back up.’

What is holding you back?  What mask do you need to remove from your life?  Check out Losing The Mask today.  It’s a helpful and quick read that I recommend to anyone whose fear of failure is holding them back from living life to the fullest – a life worth remembering!

Losing the Mask: Overcoming the Fear of Failure is available for Kindle at Amazon.com.  Go pick up your copy today!

[Note:  I received Losing The Mask:  Overcoming The Fear Of Failure for free in exchange for a review.  I was not required to provide a favorable review.]

January 2012 Top Posts and Commenters

It was a fun month for The Stretched Blog.  This month, we switched to a self hosted platform.  It has been fun to learn and experiment with the new things available at jonstolpe.com.  If you add up the traffic from the old site and the new Stretched Blog, it was far and away the best month so far.  Here is a list of the top posts on the new blog for the month of January.  It is exciting to see how many guest bloggers appeared in the top ten list this month!

Managing Conflict – A Leadership Stretch … Guest Post by Frank Chiapperino
January 14, 2012 Week In Review
Book Review: The Circle Maker by Mark Batterson
Our Behavior Is Our Witness – Guest Post by Kevin Stone
Why Did I Change To My Own Domain?
Ice Breaker – Leaving On A Jet Plane
Ice Breaker – Back to the Future
Rediscovering Grace Through A Two By Four Moment – Guest Post By Chad Jones
Stretching Beyond the Hurt – Guest Post by Diane Karchner
Say What You Need To Say (This was one of my favorites from the month!)

As promised, I am giving away a copy of The Circle Maker by Mark Batterson to this month’s top commenter.  It was a tight race between the top two, and there was a tie for 3rd place!  Here’s the top 3 (or 4):

1.  Larry Carter (22 comments)

2.  Brandon Gililland (21 comments)

3.  Bill Grandi (11 comments)

3.  Arny Sanchez (11 comments)

Your comments are a huge part of what makes The Stretched Community so great!  This month, I will be giving away Chazown by Craig Groeschel to the top commenter.

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As always, thank you so much for making The Stretched Blog part of your regular reading!

Are you a blogger?  What was the highlight of your month?  Feel free to share a link to your top post!


January 29, 2012 Week In Review

Hello, Stretched Community!  I’m going to try something new with this week’s recap post.  Let me know what you think in the comments.

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Finally… have a great week!

How was your week?  What was good, bad, or ugly on your blog this week?  What links to you have to share with the Stretched community this week?


 

Stretching Beyond the Hurt – Guest Post by Diane Karchner

Today, I present guest blogger – Diane Karchner.  Diane is a good friend from the church I attend.  I had the honor of attending a Willow Creek Group Life Conference with Diane several years ago.  During this trip, I learned that Diane was a leader with a lot of wisdom and a lot of humor – two things I love!  Diane blogs at Tilted Words when she’s not busy serving others at work and at church and when she’s not spending time with her husband, Els.  Please stop by Diane’s blog and become a regular follower/reader.  Thanks, Diane, for sharing your stretching story!

(I’d love to hear your STRETCHING story.  Drop me a comment if you’re interested in becoming a guest blogger here.)

Stretching Beyond the Hurt

“If you can’t say something good about someone, sit right here by me.”

Saying on Needlepoint Cushion

That saying made me smile. I bet it made many smile. Because we can just picture the person patting the cushion on the sofa next to her, bidding you to come tell her tales of others. (I used ‘her’ but it could just as easily have been ‘him’!)

I was one of those people for many years. I was actually both – the one patting the cushion next to me – encouraging, imploring, hopeful with anticipation of getting some juicy tidbits – and the other one – willing to let go of confidences, of rumors, hopeful that the wisdom I was about to impart was worthy of being deemed juicy. It gave me power in some cruel, misguided, stupid way.  No matter which end of it I was on.

The gossip machine got turned on me one time. Lies told about me. I didn’t see that person who started them until months later. By that time the sting was gone. The damage repaired. So when I saw her I showed her grace; the kind God would approve. But when in the midst of the pain of it I wanted to retaliate in some way – get in her face, tell a lie about her to get back at her, tell everyone what she had done to me so they would hate her like I did right then. I really did.

Retaliation. An interesting flip side to gossip, don’t you think? Had I retaliated and lashed out, my heart would have been exactly where hers was when she started the rumors. Feeling powerful…a bit vicious…harboring a strong dislike, bordering on hatred…hurt…angry. All those motives fuel either in some way. At some level.

And to be honest, gosh, it sometimes feels pretty good. But feelings are deceiving.

In Philippians it says to think on things that are true, right, good and pure. Hmmmm. I am thinking that gossip and retaliation reflect none of that. In fact, the thoughts in our heads when we do either are pretty far from being true or right or good or pure.

We humans are a vicious bunch. So glad that God is God. So glad he became human for a few decades to show us that we can live without being so human, so vicious. That we can rise above it to feel the love of God, and be secure and rewarded each day by the grace he dumps all over and around us!

For me, right now. I try not to be a giver or receiver of gossip. I try really hard. But every day is a new one, isn’t it? And every day God renews his grace. And every day I need to renew my commitment to think on the things that bring me closer to God and away from some of my naturalness, my humanness. So glad that every day God will give me the strength and grace it takes to do just that!

How are you doing in the gossip and retaliation area?  What steps have you taken to avoid gossip and retaliation?

January 22, 2012 Week In Review

The week in review for was pushed back a day thanks to the wonders of our winter wonderland and the need to take care of some things at home.  It was a good week on The Stretched Blog.  On Wednesday, The New Stretched Blog experienced the highest traffic day so far!  I will be traveling this week, so I’m turning the blog over to some great guest bloggers for a few days.  Please read the excellent posts by Diane Karchner, Chad Jones, and Kevin Stone and join the conversation in the comments.

Here’s a recap for this week:

Your continued contribution to the blog through comments is greatly appreciated.  Your comments are what makes this Stretched Community!  Please remember to take the time to Subscribe to the NEW blog, so you can have Stretched delivered daily to your e-mail inbox.  Also, don’t forget to stop by the Jon Stolpe Stretched Facebook fan page.  Become a fan to keep up with some additional Stretched stuff.  I am sharing more blog highlights from other blogs that I read regularly.  I think you’ll find some great stuff here.  Thanks!

Here are a few of my favorites from around the blog world this week:

How about you?  How was your week?  If you’re a blogger what happened over your way this week?  Did you read any great blog posts this week?  Share with the rest of us!