This post is stupid.
What I mean, this post is all about how to respond when our words or actions are stupid.
We all do stupid things.
We do things we regret – things we’d like to take back.
We have all said something dumb. Once we say it, we want to catch our words and stuff them back into our mouths.
We’ve even done something really ugly. We’d like to go back in time and delete a scene from our life reel. But it’s not that easy.
If you are a college basketball fan, you may have heard about the stupid words and actions of a Texas Tech fan and an Oklahoma State basketball star. If you missed it, Marcus Smart of Oklahoma State pushed a Texas Tech fan after words were exchanged between the two in the stands at a recent game.
I’m pretty sure, they would both like to take back there words and actions.
I don’t know all the details, but from what I’ve seen both Smart and the fan have responded pretty well since the initial incident of stupidity.
So what can we learn from the Marcus Smart incident?
5 Things To Remember When We Say Or Do Something Stupid
- Stupid happens. We all do and say dumb things. We let our emotions get the best of us. Stupid will happen to you again at some point.
- An apology is the best place to start. When you do or say something stupid, be an adult. An adult apologizes. If you offended someone, you need to apologize. Here’s the deal with apologies – your apology should be real, and it shouldn’t be full of excuses. One of the things I like about Marcus Smart’s apology speech is that he did not make excuses. He could have said, “I apologize, but he called me a ________.” Everything before the “but” is garbage. When you apologize, focus on your side of the mistake, and don’t focus on how you were offended.
- Take your punishment like a man. Before the punishment was even determined, Marcus Smart indicated he would accept whatever punishment the NCAA and Oklahoma State gave him. As it turns out, he was suspended for three games for his role in this incident. Your stupid action may not get the attention of the NCAA, but it probably has some consequences. Don’t complain about the consequences. Deal with it.
- Learn to laugh at yourself. Sometimes you just have to shake your head and chuckle at yourself for your stupid words and actions. Taking yourself a little less serious is a great way to get through your personal stupidity.
- Learn from your stupidity. If you said something or did something stupid, try not to do it again. You should have learned your lesson the first time. Only time will tell if Marcus Smart and the Texas Tech fan learned their lesson. Hopefully, they did!
How do you respond to your own stupidity? What additional tips to you have for others who have said or done something stupid?