Don’t Lose Sight Of The Difference You Make

Am I making a difference?

I work in the construction world.  Especially here on the east coast, it can be a cut-throat, brutal experience.  People are clamoring to get ahead of the next person or to squash the competitors.  Language choice is colorful to say the least, and sometimes the content of conversation makes the Howard Stern Show seem like a visit to Sunday School.  Living and working in this environment can be a challenge especially for someone who is trying to follow Christ and to represent Him with integrity and character.

I’ve worked in the industry for nearly twenty years, and it hasn’t always been easy.  I don’t always have the right words to say, and I sometimes regret the actions I’ve taken.  I question myself wondering if I said what I should have said or if I did what I should have done.  I want others to see my faith come alive in my words and in my actions.  After twenty years, I sometimes wonder if I’m making a difference.

Sometimes it’s the simplest conversations or interactions which remind me I’m right where I’m supposed to be.

A few weeks ago, one of my team members came into my office to tell me about the struggle she was having outside the office.  Her mom had been taken to the hospital.  The doctors at the hospital informed my teammate and her family that their mother was in her final days.  I listened for several minutes as my teammate explained the situation.  As she was leaving my office, I asked her, “I know this isn’t the typical question you get in the office, but I’ll ask anyway.  Is there something specific for which I can pray for you?”  She responded very affirmatively.

Then late last week, another one of my team members stopped by to inform me his young son was being taken to the hospital in response to some type of virus or infection.  I had the opportunity to listen to him and to offer my encouragement.  He texted me a couple of times throughout the weekend to give me progress reports on his son’s improving condition.  We didn’t have a major conversation, but I still had an opportunity to let him know I cared about him and his family.

It’s interactions like these which remind me I am making a difference.

I’ve been more aware of conversations and interactions with other employees throughout the office over the past couple of weeks.  People want to know you care.  They may carry around a rough exterior, but they are people who are going through all kinds of challenges and frustrations. They are crying out for someone to listen to them, and they are grasping to find the truth.  As Christian leaders in the workplace, we have a huge opportunity to show our team members a glimpse of Christ.  Will we always get it right?  Probably not.  But I’m convinced God can used messed up people like us to make a difference in the lives of others by shining His light.  We shine God’s light by being alert to others, by making wise choices, by acting with integrity, and by speaking with truth and love.

I hope and pray I never lose sight of the opportunity to serve and represent Christ right where I am.

But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect… I Peter 3:15

How are you making a difference right where you are?

MLK Day – Finite Disappointment, Infinite Hope

“We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope.”
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

This post originally appeared in October of 2012 in the middle of a volunteer work week in which our team was helping to clean out the home of a woman who had fallen into a pattern of hoarding.  This post came to mind as I was thinking about Martin Luther King, Jr. Day which we are celebrating in the United States today.  I had a huge feeling of despair as I wrote this post over a year ago, but I have seen the other side.  The woman we helped is still living in the house.  Other experts have stepped in to help.  And she is now part of our H.O.P.E. serving small group.  Do we face disappointments in life?  Absolutely!  Is there still hope?  You bet.  Take a look at this post.  I hope you’ll find hope in the midst of whatever disappointment and despair you may be facing.

Over the past four days, I’ve been working with a team of people to clean up and empty out the home of an elderly woman in our community.  Each night this week, a team of 12-20 eager volunteers have arrived at the home ready to work.  They’ve put everything they have into this project, and they’ve remarkably emptied the main floor of 2 1/2 dumpsters full of trash.  It’s amazing what can be done when good people work together.

What has been challenging to me especially over the past two nights is the revelation of how bad things still are for this woman and her home.  As we’ve emptied rooms, we’ve discovered mold and mildew beyond anyone’s imagination.  And last night, a few of us journeyed into the basement to discover conditions that I can hardly describe without crying or vomiting.  She has been sleeping in this basement which is full of mold, trash, and raw sewage.

It became quite apparent last night that we had taken this project to a point that goes far beyond the scope that a team of untrained volunteers can handle.  On one hand, I’m so grateful for the powerful force of willing volunteers to get this project to this point.  And on the other hand, I feel so sad and over my head to realize that we may not be able to do much more right now to restore this woman’s home to a safe and healthy living environment.

So where do we go from here?  It’s a great question for which I don’t know the answer.  I know that there is still hope.  And I need to lean on this hope despite the huge disappointment.  I pray that the actions taken so far would not be a waste of time, energy, and money.  I pray that this woman’s life would be changed forever because of what has taken place this week.  I pray for the neighbors that they may know Christ’s love because of the actions taken this week.  And I pray for those who volunteered that they would live their lives differently because of what they saw this week.  Please pray for these things and for direction as we discern how to proceed from here.  Thanks!

We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body. For we who are alive are always being given over to death for Jesus’ sake, so that his life may also be revealed in our mortal body. So then, death is at work in us, but life is at work in you.

It is written: “I believed; therefore I have spoken.”Since we have that same spirit of faith, we also believe and therefore speak, because we know that the one who raised the Lord Jesus from the dead will also raise us with Jesus and present us with you to himself. All this is for your benefit, so that the grace that is reaching more and more people may cause thanksgiving to overflow to the glory of God.

Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.

2 Corinthians 4:8-18

That’s all I’ve got.  What keeps you going?  How have you seen disappointment and despair turn into hope?

Ice Breaker – I Have A Dream

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Each week on The Stretched Blog, I ask an ice breaker question. The questions are designed to help us get to know each other here in The Stretched Community. I’ll provide my answer to the question here in the post, and then you can leave your response in the comments. While you’re in the comments section, see how others answered the ice breaker question.

Over the next few days, people will be celebrating the life of MLK (Martin Luther King Jr.).  He is known for speaking out against racial inequality.  His speech on the steps of the Lincoln Memorial in Washington D.C. is often quoted – “I have a dream….”  MLK’s dreams are still being realized and worked on today.  This week’s Stretched Ice Breaker is inspired by his famous speech.

Question:  Finish the sentence, I have a dream ___________.

My Answer:  I have a dream that men, women, and children all over the world would develop a mission mindset.  When I say mission mindset what do I mean?  Sure I’d love to see people going on mission trips all over the world.  But this isn’t really my dream.  My dream is that people would see the mission field right where they live and work.  My dream is that they would have a focus on reaching out to people in their neighborhoods, in their workplaces, and even in their homes.  What’s your dream?

Answer this week’s ice breaker question by leaving a comment. I look forward to reading your response! (As always, feel free to share links.) And keep STRETCHING!

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90 Day Thank You Note Challenge – Week 3

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It’s week 3 of the 90 Day Thank You Note Challenge!

How’s it going so far?

If you’re like me, life has already become busy in the new year.  I’m trying to keep up with my goals for the new year.  So far so good.  But it’s definitely been a challenge with the pulls and pressures of everyday life.


Sticking with the 90 Day Thank You Note Challenge requires you to be intentional.  You have to prioritize your time and carve out a few moments to write at least one thank you note this week.  When things get busy, it’s easy to forget.  Here are somethings to help you remember.

5 Things To Help You Remember To Write Your Weekly Thank You Notes

  1. Put an appointment on your calendar.  I added a recurring appointment to my calendar for Thank You Thursday.  Every Thursday at 7:15AM, a reminder pops up on my phone.  It’s a simple way to remember.
  2. Put a box of thank you notes in a place you will see every week.  My box of thank you notes are on a shelf right above my computer monitor.  You’ve heard the phrase, “Out of sight, out of mind.”  Keep your thank you notes in sight, so you remember.
  3. Find accountability.  Ask a friend to hold you accountable to write a weekly thank you note.  Make sure they check in with you each week.  Knowing someone will be checking in on you is a great way to remember.
  4. Keep a list of potential thank you note recipients.  Write names down on paper or keep a running list on your phone of people in your life who deserve a thank you note.  Write their name down along with a specific reason they deserve a thank you note.  This will help you remember who should get a thank you note in the week’s ahead.
  5. Sign up for Matt McWilliams’ Thank You Revolution.  If you’re part of the Revolution, you will get an email from Matt each week.  His email provides practical advice for writing your thank you notes.  And his email will help you remember to write your weekly thank you note.  (You can sign up by clicking here.)

What helps you remember to write thank you notes?  How have any of the above items helped you with the 90 Day Thank You Note Challenge?

Book Review: The Noticer Returns by @AndyAndrews

I love it when people send me books to read.

Late last year, Matt Ham sent me a copy of The Noticer Returns: Sometimes You Find Perspective, and Sometimes Perspective Finds You by Andy Andrews.  I’ll confess I didn’t know exactly what to expect.  So far, I’ve only read one other book by best-selling author Andrews, so I didn’t have a lot to go on besides the recommendation of several other bloggers and podcasters.

The Noticer Returns is set in the south along the coast of the Gulf of Mexico.  It’s a story of several people whose lives intersect thanks to the presence of Jones, an older gentlemen who wanders in and out of the lives of people.  Jones is a mentor and friend who seems to parallel the role of Christ in our lives.  He says throughout the story that he’s always there for each character in the story.

The ending of the story in particular left a big smile on my face as the characters in the story come to understand truths essential to moving forward with their individual lives and situations.  The story is riddled with valuable lessons for the reader.  I walked away with several key points or lessons:

  • Mentors are an important part of growth.  Jones plays this role for most of the characters in this story, and some of the older characters become mentor figures to younger characters.  We need people in our lives who have gone before us who can help us learn valuable lessons for living life.
  • Life is full of circumstances.  We have a choice of how we will react to these circumstances.  Will we get flustered?  Will we give up?  Will we get angry?  Or will we stay composed?  Will we keep going?  Will we choose to be positive?
  • If you want to do something extraordinary with your life, you have to be different.  Doing the same thing as everyone else is only contributing to average.  Don’t be average.
  • What we do today matters for our own future and for the future of our country and for the future of our society in general.  You and I contribute to the standards that others will follow.  How will we contribute or respond to the standards our society is creating?  As parents, we play a huge role in raising our children.  What results do you want for you kids when they grow up?  Everything we do matters – all our actions have consequences.
  • We must pursue wisdom throughout our lives.  We can’t stop learning when we finish school.  We must have a passion to get wisdom.
  • Obedience to God’s Word is the first step towards gaining understanding.
  • Once we’ve gained wisdom, we must give it away by mentoring others.

The Noticer Returns is a story that will get you thinking about life, the pursuit of wisdom, and the transfer of wisdom to others.  I’m thankful for the opportunity to read this book, and I’d recommend it to anyone looking for a book about wisdom or to someone who is simply looking for a story to read.

This month on The Stretched Blog, I am giving away a copy of The Noticer Returns to a lucky winner to the blog.  To find out more information on this GIVEAWAY check out the December 2013 Top Posts & Top Comments post by clicking here.

What have you noticed lately?  Who has been a mentor in your life?  Who are you mentoring?

(Please note:  There are affiliate links in this post.  Should you purchase The Noticer Returns by clicking one of these links, I receive a small percentage of the purchase.  These funds are used to support The Stretched Blog and to extend ministry and missions to Guatemala.  Thank you!)

 

6 Reasons To Go To Guatemala With Me In 2014

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This Saturday afternoon, our family will be hosting an informational meeting for those who might be interested in going to Guatemala with us in 2014.  We’d love to have you join us.  To find out more about the meeting, click here.

Why would you want to go to Guatemala with me in 2014?

Great question!  While I think it would be an amazing and unique experience for anyone, I don’t think it’s just something COOL to do.  I think a trip to Guatemala is a great idea for many reasons.  Today’s post will give you something to chew on.  I’m hoping it will leave you curious to find out more information.

6 Reasons To Go To Guatemala With Me In 2014

  1. Follow the Great Commission.  In Matthew 28:18-20, we are told to go into all the world.  Going to Guatemala with me will provide a great way for you to live this out.
  2. Do something different.  You can spend a week at the beach or a week in the mountains any year.  Make this a year when you do something different.  Going to Guatemala with me will give you the opportunity to do something completely different.  You will eat different food.  You will hear different language and different music.  You will meet different people.  It will be different, and it will be good!
  3. Broaden your view.  You live in a box.  I’m not sure how big it is, but you have your comfort levels and viewpoints based on what goes on in your “little” box.  Did you know there is much more in this world that happens outside your box?  My first trip to Guatemala in 2012 was an eye-opener for me.  I had never before seen the poverty that I saw in Guatemala.  I was introduced to a new culture and way of life as I walked the streets of Xenacoj and met the people.  Going to Guatemala with me will broaden your view and change many of your perspectives on life.
  4. Get your feet wet.  When you approach a swimming pool, a lake, or the ocean to go for a swim, most of us stick a toe in the water before we jump in.  We want to see how the water feels.  Is it hot?  Is it cold?  We want to get our feet wet before we commit ourselves to getting completely wet.  Going to Guatemala with me will give you the opportunity to get your feet wet on missions.
  5. Change someone’s life forever.  When people think of a short-term missions trip, they don’t often think about having a long-term impact.  My experience has shown me that a short-term trip can have a long-term impact.  Going to Guatemala with me will give you an opportunity to change someone’s life forever.
  6. Change your life.  I don’t like change.  I like being in my “comfort zone.”  But I’ve realized how change can be healthy.  It STRETCHES you to new heights.  It transforms you into something better.  Going to Guatemala with me will change your life forever.  You will come home a different person.  I’m hoping you will come home with a new mindset – a mission mindset!

What are your travel plans for 2014?  What would a trip to Guatemala with me make possible in your life and in the lives of those around you?

One Word 2014 – Finish

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For the past couple of years, I’ve chosen one word to represent my year.

Two years ago (2012), my one word was TRANSFORMED.

Last year (2013), my one word was EPIPHANY.

And this year, my one word is FINISH.

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I want this to be a year where I finish a few things that have been on the burner for a little while.  I want to finish my first book.  I want to finish a couple of projects around the house.  I want to finish things I’ve started.

It seems like I have a lot of irons in the fire between my job, my family, my house, my writing, and my other interests.  It’s easy to start things and to take them so far before something else comes up.  Maybe I’m too distracted at times, and maybe I need to learn how to prioritize and prune things from my list of action items.  I want this to be a year in which I follow-up on things to completion.  I want this to be a year in which I cross the finish line on some new and exciting things.

As I head into this year of FINISH, I’m taking a verse with me:

He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.  Philippians 1:6

This verse written by Paul is a great reminder to keep my priorities and trust on Jesus Christ.  As I’ve written recently related to my goals for 2014, I want my priorities to be God’s priorities for my life.  And so this is my prayer:

God, Thank you for using me for good things.  Thank you for the promise of finishing what you started.  In this year of FINISH, make my priorities yours.  Help me to have vision, self-control, wisdom, and persistence to finish what I’ve started.

What’s your One Word for 2014?  What is something you want to FINISH in 2014?

Ice Breaker – Alaska, Hawaii, or Home

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Each week on The Stretched Blog, I ask an ice breaker question. The questions are designed to help us get to know each other here in The Stretched Community. I’ll provide my answer to the question here in the post, and then you can leave your response in the comments. While you’re in the comments section, see how others answered the ice breaker question.

Like most of the northern and eastern parts of the country, we’ve been dealing with extremely cold temperatures this week.  Our furnace stopped working on the coldest day when the our condensate line froze and our condensate trap cracked.  We’ve found a way to stay warm while we wait for a new part to fix the furnace.  In the meantime, our family has been thinking about warm places.  These thoughts are the inspiration for this week’s Stretched Ice Breaker.

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Question:  Would you rather visit Alaska or Hawaii?  Or would you prefer to stay at home?

My Answer:  I’ve never been to Alaska, and I think it would be great to visit there at least once.  I’ve been to Hawaii a couple of times, and it is truly a paradise.  I’d visit Hawaii again any time.  I remember enjoying the sunshine, the beautiful beaches, the tropical jungles, and the amazing mountains.  It’s too bad Hawaii is so far away from the east coast.

Answer this week’s ice breaker question by leaving a comment. I look forward to reading your response! (As always, feel free to share links.) And keep STRETCHING!

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