90 Day Thank You Note Challenge – Week 2

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Today is Thank You Thursday!

It’s week 2 of the 90 Day Thank You Note Challenge.

If you haven’t committed, it’s not too late.  Go to the original post by clicking here to see how you can jump on the Thank You Revolution bandwagon.

How did week 1 of the challenge work out for you?  Did you send a thank you note?  Did you hear back from the recipient?  How did they respond?

Developing an attitude of gratitude takes practice.

As I was thinking about this week’s Thank You Thursday post, I kept coming back to the phrase – Attitude of Gratitude.

Do you think an attitude of gratitude comes naturally?

I’m not so sure.  I think most of us are selfish and self-centered by nature.  It takes intentionality to break free from the chains of selfishness.  I think it takes practice.  This is why I believe in the 90 Day Thank You Note Challenge.  It’s not just about doing something cool to start the new year.  It’s not about bringing fame and fortune to my blog or to Matt McWilliams.  And it’s not about making a name for yourself.

The 90 Day Thank You Note Challenge is all about helping you develop a pattern of appreciation for others.  It’s about fostering a discipline which leads to an attitude of gratitude.

In the weeks to come (maybe even this week), you may not feel like writing a thank you note.  You need to push passed this feeling and write a thank you note to someone in your life who is deserving.  Who will it be this week?

What helps you to have an attitude of gratitude?

Learning To Lead Is A Stretch (Guest Post by @JoshuaWRivers)

Today, I have the privilege of presenting guest blogger Joshua Rivers.  Joshua is a blogger, podcaster, and author.  He recently released a new book about Joshua (from the Bible).  In his post, Joshua (Rivers) shares some thoughts about how Joshua (from the Bible) was stretched to become a better leader.  Enjoy the post.  At the end, I’ll tell you how you can enter to win a FREE Kindle copy of Joshua’s (Rivers) book, Leave Nothing Undone: 13 Key Lessons from the Life of Joshua.  To learn more about Joshua (Rivers), check out his blog by clicking here.

Learning To Lead Is A Stretch

The Bible is full of examples of people who grew spiritually. The greatest examples of these,  I believe, are the ones that showed the struggles that they went through. One example I love is Joshua.

When Joshua was introduced in Exodus, he was given the responsibility of leading the children of Israel into battle. The Bible gives no indication as to what his credentials were prior to this time, but my belief is that he must have been the slave to a military leader in Egypt – a military leader that became a point of reference for years to come. So, how did this slave become one of the greatest military leaders in history?

1. Joshua had to stretch himself to grow and reach his potential.

We know that God had much more planned for Joshua, and, at some point, Joshua had to realize that potential as well.

Growing up as a slave, and the fact that his ancestors had been slaves for hundreds of years, would have given the average person little to no hope of a future beyond slavery. Joshua apparently had a more positive outlook. He worked at applying himself, even in a difficult situation. Perhaps he looked at the example of Joseph, who happened to be his great, great, great-grandfather – who went from slavery to second in command under Pharaoh.

2. Joshua had to stretch himself to learn patience.

Learning patience is hard. By definition, patience is the result of going through a difficult or trying situation without being irritated or annoyed. Surely as a slave, he experienced many times when this was tested.

But don’t forget the fact that he had to wander around the wilderness because of other people. Joshua was on fire for following God’s plan to march into the Promised Land, but the others (except for Caleb) cowered back in fear of the giants in Canaan. The result was that no one got to go into the land and claim their inheritance. Joshua had to wait for 40 years, and it wasn’t his fault.

3. Joshua had to stretch himself by learning the importance of prayer.

Joshua was generally a man of prayer, but there was a time that he failed to pray as he should have. As a result, he learned some very hard lessons. First, he failed to pray and ask God’s guidance when they came to Ai – and they lost the battle. After he finally went to God and gained the victory at Ai, men from Gibeon tricked the Israelites into signing a treaty. This led to an extra burden on Joshua and the Israelites.

It doesn’t matter if the situation seemed small or insignificant, Joshua learned that seeking God in prayer was vital to his growth and success.

Joshua grew into a great man of God and achieved such a level of success, that God made this statement about him: “he left nothing undone.” This statement led me to a study of his life and eventually to the writing of a book based on that phrase: “Leave Nothing Undone: 13 Key Lessons from the Life of Joshua.” The book covers these and nine other topics. You can get your Kindle copy here.

Joshua has also agreed to give away a copy of the kindle version of his eBook to a Stretched reader.  Click on the Rafflecopter link below to enter.

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How have you been stretched to become a better leader?

 

December 2013 – Top Posts And Commenters Plus BOOK GIVEAWAY

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Here are the highlights from December 2013.  Thanks to everyone who read along and commented.  Your readership and participation in the daily discussions are what make The Stretched Community.  Thank you!  Overall, traffic was down from November (28.04%).  Traffic was down 26.88% compared to a year ago.  While the tread is lower, I’m not overly surprised or disappointed.  My posting and promotion patterns were a bit off this month based on the holidays and several other December interruptions and responsibilities.  Also worth noting, my traffic in 2013 was up 33.29% from my traffic in 2012.  The top 10 posts again included three posts from 2012, one post from 2011, and two posts from previous months in 2013.  If you missed any of these posts, I hope you’ll go and check them out now by clicking below.  The post with the most engagement was from December 11, 2013 – ADVENTure Day 11 (Guest Post by Bill Grandi).

Top 10 Posts:

  1. I’m Losing My Patients – 6 Ways To Rediscover Patience  April 2, 2013 (98)
  2. Ten Things Every Small Group Leader Should Know  March 7, 2012 (78)
  3. 90 Day Thank You Note Challenge  December 12, 2013 (76)
  4. ADVENTure Day 11 (Guest Post by Bill Grandi)  December 11, 2013 (58)
  5. Always Be Prepared – Lessons From A Smoke Alarm  August 22, 2012 (48)
  6. When The Treadmill Stops Suddenly – 5 Tips For Handling Life Stopping Experiences February 11, 2013 (46)
  7. Go To Guatemala With Me In 2014!  December 23, 2013 (34)
  8. Ten Reasons To Attend FamilyLife Weekend To Remember February 27, 2012 (34)
  9. Ice Breaker – Jury Duty  December 6, 2013 (33)
  10. The Power of the Next Question May 20, 2011 (30)

Top 10 Commenters:

As promised at the beginning of the month, I have randomly chosen someone from the top 10 commenters list to receive a copy of Chazown: Define Your Vision. Pursue Your Passion. Live Your Life on Purpose by Craig Groeschel.  The winner of this book is…(drum roll)…Bill Grandi.  Congrats to Bill!

For the month of January, I’ll be giving away a copy of The Noticer Returns: Sometimes You Find Perspective, and Sometimes Perspective Finds You by Andy AndrewsThis month, the winner will be chosen randomly from the top 10 commenters.

Thanks to each and everyone for reading and for commenting.  I’m looking forward to November with The Stretched Community!  The month of January will include more STRETCHING posts.  If you’re interested in guest posting here, leave a comment to connect with me.  January should be another great month!

How was your month?  If you’re a blogger share a link to your top post in the comments?  What was your favorite Stretched post this month?  How were you STRETCHED in December?

In case you’re interested, here are a few other interesting stats about December (based on Google Analytics):

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Go To Guatemala With Me In 2014 – Informational Meeting

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Do you want to do something incredible in 2014?

Here’s something for you to consider.

What:  Guatemala Missions Trip 2014 Informational Meeting

When:  January 18, 2014 at 1 PM  (We’re planning for this to last an hour to an hour and a half.  We’ll provide a little taste of Guatemala cuisine.)

Where:  My House in Schwenksville, PA (contact me for directions)

Why:  Our family is planning a return trip to Guatemala August 3, 2014 through August 10, 2014.  We believe you may be called to go with us this year, and we’d like to share with you about our previous trip and about what you might expect by joining us this summer.  We would also like to give you more details and answer your questions.

Who:  We’re not asking you to commit to going just yet.  If the idea of going on an adventure, getting out of your comfort zone, and doing something worthwhile is remotely interested, you should consider coming to this meeting.  (Maybe you don’t live near me.  Maybe you already have a commitment during this time slot.  If you can’t make it, but you want more information, e-mail me at jonstolpe@gmail.com so we can connect.)

RSVP:  We need to know how many to plan for.  Leave a comment or send me an e-mail to let us know you’re coming.

Ice Breaker – 2014 Fitness Goals

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Each week on The Stretched Blog, I ask an ice breaker question. The questions are designed to help us get to know each other here in The Stretched Community. I’ll provide my answer to the question here in the post, and then you can leave your response in the comments. While you’re in the comments section, see how others answered the ice breaker question.

Even if you are in perfect shape, you probably have some things you’d like to do to improve or to maintain your fitness level.  As I stated in my 2014 Goals post on Wednesday, I set personal goals in several different categories for the new year.  Today, I’m going to share my fitness goals with you as part of this week’s Stretched Ice Breaker.

Question:  Did you set any fitness related goals for the new year?  Share one (or more) of them in the comments.

My Answer:  After the three goals above (spiritual, marriage, and family – not shown here), I have other goals and desires which are worth pursuing.  I want to maintain a healthy lifestyle.  I want to do things for my body which will allow me to live a happy, productive, and long life.  To this end, I will find ways to exercise 250 days in 2014.  I will run 1,500 miles.  And I will swim 25 miles.

(Last year, I exercised 250 days, and I ran 1386 miles.  Are these goals possible?  I think so.)

Answer this week’s ice breaker question by leaving a comment. I look forward to reading your response! (As always, feel free to share links.) And keep STRETCHING!

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90 Day Thank You Note Challenge STARTS TODAY!

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A few weeks ago, I challenged readers to consider joining the Matt McWilliams’ Thank You Revolution for 90 days.

The challenge starts today!

It’s not too late to jump on board.  In fact, this is the perfect time to get started with a weekly ritual of writing at least one hand-written thank you note each week for the next 13 weeks.  You will be amazed at the impact of this simple discipline.  [Go back to the original post to see just how easy it is to join the 90 Day Thank You Note Challenge.  Click here.]

To get you started, here are a couple of people you may want to thank today:

  1. A family member or friend who gave you a gift.
  2. A co-worker who went above and beyond the call of duty during the holidays.
  3. A church leader who spent hours planning and leading Christmas Eve services.
  4. A neighbor who did something nice for you while you were away for Christmas.
  5. A friend who encouraged you to try something new in 2014.

So here are a couple of other things to do in taking this challenge.

  • Go purchase a box of thank you notes.  I started with 10, but I soon went back and picked up a box of 50.  It will be time for a new box again soon.
  • Pick a recipient for your first thank you note.  This should be someone who is deserving of your gratitude.  You should be able to thank them for something specific.  A general note of thanks without any details may come across as a note to kiss up.  This isn’t the goal.
  • Write your first note.  It doesn’t have to be long.  Start by thanking the person for something specific.  Next, share why you appreciated this in one or two sentences.  Finally, end the note with a more general statement about how much you appreciate having someone like them in your corner.  Here’s an example of a note I would write to one of my co-workers:

Dear Steve,

Thanks so much for working over the holiday week while everyone else was off.

You did such a great job holding down the fort and keeping our customers happy while most of our team was on vacation.  Additionally, thank you for helping us finish the month and quarter as strong as possible.

I’m so thankful to be apart of this team with people like you.  You set a great example for others to follow.

Best Regards,

Jon

So what are you waiting for?  Join the 90 Day Thank You Note Challenge TODAY!

Who is getting your first thank you note today and why?

 

2014 Goals

Over the past week or two, I have been working on goals for the new year.  I work well from a position of “To Do Lists” and targets, so it’s natural for me to create new goals heading into 2014.  I want to be intentional with how I live my life, and I believe a list of goals can be a huge part of being intentional.

Last night, I took time to write them down.  Actually, each member of our family wrote down at least 5 goals for the new year.  We shared them with each other as a way to make the goals real.  The kids wrote goals in these five areas:  spiritual, fitness, academic, financial, and interest.  It was pretty amazing to see their goals for 2014.  For example, Isaac wants to put $20 in the bank each month, and Hannah wants to qualify for PACs in the mile.

My list included spiritual goals, marriage goals, family goals, fitness goals, financial goals, work goals, academic goals, and writing goals.  I hope and plan to accomplish each of the things written down on this list; however, I’m not convinced this will happen.  And I’m okay with this.

At the bottom of my 2014 goal list, I wrote a verse:

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  Jeremiah 29:11

I want my goals and plans to be God’s plans for me in 2014.  And this may mean some of my goals need to be refined, refocused, and possibly removed.  And so I start 2014 with this prayer:

God, Thank you for a fresh start today and every day.  I have many goals and ideas for the new year.  Each of these plans is nothing without you.  Ans so I give you my agenda.  Make my goals your goals and plans for me.  Where I am off base correct me.  Where I am right on encourage me.  Surround me with people who will keep me pointed at You, and use me in the lives of others to do the same.  May 2014 be a year of amazing blessing and stretching.  Amen.

Do you set goals or resolutions for the new year?  Why or why not?  What is one of your goals for 2014?

Epiphany Revisited

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In January of this year (2013), I jumped on board the One Word 365 campaign when I selected the word EPIPHANY as my one word.  Here were my thoughts in selecting epiphany as my word for 2013:

Epiphany is about revealing Jesus Christ, the Son of God, in my life.  I want to experience epiphany on a daily basis.  I want to know Christ better today than yesterday.  I want my life to be marked as revealing Christ to other people.  I’m sure this will come through some words, but I especially want my actions to be marked as one who is following Christ.  I suppose I could have selected reveal as my word, but epiphany seems to provide some new and interesting angles that I’d like to pursue. [To read more from this post click here.]

As I look back on the year, it’s been interesting to see how God has been revealed to me and to those around me in new and exciting ways this year.  With today’s post, I want to look back at some of the highlights of this year of epiphany.

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In January, our family dealt with the aftermath of an auto accident.  Accidents have a way of jolting you.  In the midst of figuring out the logistics that came up after the accident, we saw God working in amazing ways through this whole experience.  My post titled CRASH! Accidents Happen – And God Still Shows Up provides a glimpse into the epiphanies we experienced through the car crash.  [To read this post click here.]

 

In February, I explored the topic of scars and stretch marks.  My post titled Scars And Stretch Marks Revealed explored five epiphanies or thoughts about why it’s healthy to expose our scars.  [To read this post click here.]

Miscellaneous JMS Photos 003In March, I processed the topic of purpose.  Our previous Seeing Eye puppy, Irwin, was dropped out of the training program due to a health issue.  As a result, instead of guiding a blind person, Irwin became a pet for a family.  His “career change” was a reminder that God has plans and purposes for us that we don’t always see right away.  In my post titled RePurposed, I explored 5 ways to discover your purpose.  [To read this post click here.]

In April, I was reminded of the importance of being present in the here and now.  I often look get caught up in looking to far down the road into the future.  When Leanne and I were visiting Philadelphia for a theater date, I nearly collided with another car at an intersection when I missed a traffic light.  My post titled Hit The Brakes – Pay Attention To The Here And Now reflects on the importance of paying attention to today.  [To read this post click here.]

In May, another experience with one of our dogs was the catalyst for an epiphany worth remembering.  If you recall, our “forever dog”, Iso, ate one of my dress shirts.  Unlike previous experiences in which he had large pieces of fabric, he was not able to pass my shirt.  He required surgery, and he had to wear an Elizabethan Collar for a few weeks when he came home from the vet.  In my post titled The Cone Of Shame, I reflect on the power of grace and forgiveness in our lives which removes the cones of shame in our own lives.  [To read this post click here.]

In June, I posted about the importance of having boundaries in our lives.  This isn’t necessarily a new topic for me, but there were some new thoughts or epiphanies which were worth exploring in this post titled 3 Ways To Set Appropriate Boundaries In Our Lives.  [To read this post click here.]

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In July, our family visited the Midwest to see family in Illinois, Wisconsin, and Minnesota.  It was really great to see everyone, and there were many personal epiphanies I’ll treasure from the different interactions of this trip.  The one which clearly stands out to me though came during my visit with my 93-year-old Grandma in Illinois.  She is clearly ready to hang up her track spikes for the last time, but God is still using her.  My post titled Stretching To The Finish reflects on our time together.  I’m so thankful for this visit with Grandma.  [To read this post click here.]

Guatemala 2013 324In August, our family went to Guatemala.  It would be difficult to go through a recap on the year without mentioning Guatemala.  Our trip in early August continues to provide epiphanies and inspiration.  In fact, our family is in the early stages of planning a return trip to Guatemala in August 2014.  Our trip generated a lot of positive encouragement from friends and family.  I’m hoping we will inspire others to consider taking their own leaps of faith through a short-term missions trip (maybe even with us to Guatemala!).  But I also received some negative comments along the way as we prepared for this trip and when we returned.  My post titled Xenacoj – Responding to Naysayers, Doubters, and Inquisitors provided a place for me to process and respond to these comments.  [To read this post click here.]

In September, Leanne and I went to see A Strange Brand Of Happy for one of our date nights.  The movie pushed me to think about the subject of happiness.  We often think about what will make us happy.  What if we looked at happiness from a different angle?  My post titled A Different Twist On Happiness explores this question.  The comments from this post are especially worth looking at again.  [To read this post and comments click here.]

In October, we spent a lot of time at Hannah’s cross-country meets.  Towards the end of the month, she won the JV Girls Conference Meet.  She was hoping to run in the Varsity race during this meet after moving up the team ranks as the season went along.  Her attitude during this experience was something worth remembering.  My post titled The Power Of A Positive Attitude explains this experience in more detail.  [To read this post click here.]

In November, I continued to think about our trip to Guatemala, and I continued to process a book idea which has been spinning around in my head.  (Hint:  The book idea has to do with short-term missions.)  In my post titled, 5 Reasons The Church Should Engage In Short-Term Missions, I explore more thoughts related to the Guatemala theme and the book theme.  This will continue to be a focus as I head into making this idea a reality in 2014.  [To read this post click here.]

December is almost over, I’m still processing the epiphanies from the month.  I’d like to encourage you to start the new year off with intentional gratitude.  Sign up for the 90 Day Thank You Note Challenge.  Click here, to find out how you can join the challenge and become part of the Thank You Revolution.

I hope this gives you a little perspective on my epiphanies in 2013.  Now, it’s time for me to process a new word for 2014!

How were you challenged by The Stretched Blog in 2013?  What was your favorite post?  How has God been revealed to you in 2013?  Share your thoughts and answers in the comments.

 

6 Ways To Rediscover Patience

This was the top post written in 2013 on The Stretched Blog (there are three posts written prior to 2013 which actually drove more traffic this year).  This post on patience was written back in early April of this year.  Reviewing this post provides some great reminders for me, and I hope you’ll find encouragement from this post as well.  I am still be stretched by the thoughts in this post.  Here goes….

I’m Losing My Patience – 6 Ways To Rediscover Patience

As a kid, I can remember a few times when my Dad’s fuse was shorter than normal.  Especially when he was tired and under a lot of stress, his patience would grow thin, and he would become frustrated and somewhat angry as my brothers and I would push the limits on what he could tolerate.

Overall, my Dad is a great father, and I’d honestly be honored and blessed if I could pick up half of his qualities.  He’s a leader.  He’s wise.  He’s extremely intelligent.  He’s caring.  I could go on.  But if I’m honest, I hoped I would miss out on his occasional short patience “quality.”

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Well, I’m afraid that didn’t completely work out.  The other night, Leanne said to me, “I think you’re getting more impatient as you get older.”  Whoa!  First, she’s calling me impatient.  And then, she’s calling me older!  Maybe she’s right.  By the end of the night, my tolerance for horsing around diminishes, and I can often tell that I’m losing my patience.  It’s not a feeling I completely enjoy.  I don’t want to be grumpy or to be known as the “wet blanket” in the house, so I need to find a way to restore my patience levels.

Here are several ideas that come to mind for bringing patience back into my life.  Maybe, they’ll help you too!

6 Ways To Rediscover Patience

  1. Recognize that patience comes from God.  According to Paul in Galatians, patience is a fruit of the Holy Spirit.  But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience (or forbearance), kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.  Galatians 5:22-23
  2. Pray for patience.  Many would consider this to be a dangerous prayer.  I’m not so sure.  If true patience comes from God, doesn’t it make sense that we should ask for it?  “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.”  Matthew 7:7-8
  3. Learn the things that cause us to lose our patience.  Maybe it’s lack of sleep.  Maybe it’s financial stress.  Maybe it’s pressure at work.  It’s important to learn these causes, so we can come up with a plan to combat the problems.
  4. Take counter measures.  If it’s lack of sleep – get more sleep.  If it’s stress – find ways to eliminate or alleviate the stress.  Running is a huge counter measure for me in the battle against stress.  When I get regular exercise, my patience tends to improve.
  5. Get someone to watch your back.  Use a friend to keep your patience levels in check.  I’m thankful that my wife would call me on the carpet about my patience.  I need people in my life who build me up and who help me deal with some of my “demons”.
  6. Ask for forgiveness.  On the rare occasion when my Dad would lose his patience, he would come back and apologize.  He would ask for forgiveness if he had somehow wronged on of us.  We’re not perfect.  Not one of us gets it right all the time.  We all make mistakes.  We will lose our patience.  Admitting failure can be a positive step in the healing process and in STRETCHING us towards the personal growth we need to pursue.  Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.  Colossians 3:13

Do you struggle with patience?  What helps you when you lose your patience?  What thoughts can you add to the list above?