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The Chickens and The Bees

Life as a Dad can sure be challenging at times, hilarious at times, and sometimes a mix of both. I experience this all the time, and recently was no exception. For those of you who don’t know, I’m getting ready to raise chickens. I’ve been trying to put the finishing touches on a cool chicken coop. And the family is starting to get ready to receive the baby chicks next week.

Okay, maybe this idea is a little crazy, but don’t try to change my mind now.

At any rate, I few months ago when we were first talking this over as a family, I had a couple of hilarious/challenging conversations with my son, Isaac. Here’s how it went:

Saturday morning on my way to my saxophone lesson with both kids in the car…

Isaac: “Dad, what happens if we crack an egg and there’s a chicken inside?”

Hannah: Snicker…

Me: “Well, we won’t have to worry about that, because we aren’t getting any roosters.”

Isaac: “What do roosters have to do with it?”

Hannah: Snicker, snicker…

Me: “Well, you can’t have baby chickens without roosters.”

Isaac: “Oh…”

Me: “Maybe, we should talk about this later.”

That evening while I was washing the dishes, Isaac is hanging around me…

Me: “You remember that conversation we had this morning about the chickens and the roosters?”

Isaac: “Yes.”

Me: “Well, maybe we should talk about that some more.”

Isaac: “I think that will be an uncomfortable conversation.”

Me: “No kidding.”

A few weeks later, Isaac and I were alone in the car on the way to the mall, and we had a chance to discuss the 30,000 foot view of the fact that roosters and chickens were needed to have baby chickens just like dads and moms were necessary to have babies. We didn’t get into all the details, but I’m hoping this laid the foundation for more conversations.

As I think about this topic, I’m extremely grateful for the model my own dad gave me for talking openly and frankly about an “Uncomfortable” topic.

Topper

Dilbert.com

Did you ever meet someone like this? A topper? This is the guy who has done things more extreme, more difficult, more challenging, more horrific, more hilarious, more…, more…, more….

I have a confession to make. I’m one of those guys. This is a tough one to overcome. Any advice? I don’t really want to be like that.

Just keepin’ it real!

We’re All Terminally Ill. Do We Live Like It?

This was my Facebook status a few days ago. Seems kind of morbid at first, but let me explain.

I was actually sitting in a meeting with some other managers when someone mentioned that the wife of one of our technical personnel was terminally ill. It got me thinking, I wonder how knowing this impacts his family? I wonder how they are living their lives knowing this important detail. Then it suddenly hit me. In a way, we’re all terminal. Our days on earth are but a blink. We’re really only here on earth for a short period of time.

I Peter 1:24,25 says “For ‘All people are like grass, and all their glory is like the flowers of the field; the grass withers and the flowers fall, but the word of the Lord endures forever.’ And this is the word that was preached to you.”

Isaiah 40:6-8 says “A voice says, ‘Cry out.’ And I said, ‘What shall I cry?’ ‘All people are like grass, and all human faithfulness is like the flowers of the field. The grass withers and the flowers fall, because the breath of the LORD blows on them. Surely the people are grass. The grass withers and flowers fall, but the word of our God endures forever.'”

I don’t think these verses were meant to throw us into a state of depression. I do however think they were meant to remind us that there is one God, and we’re not the one. We will all face death at some point in our lives (and I’m guessing it will come on us sooner than we expected). What kind of legacy will we leave? What in our lives needs to take more of a priority? What relationships do we need to work on with more energy? How should we spend our time? How will we share the reason for our faith? How will we let others know about Christ and about our hope for eternity? These are some of the questions that really matter.

In getting to know people, I like to ask some crazy questions – some call it the famous “Stolpe Hot Seat” questions. One of the questions that I often ask is this, “If you knew that you only had 30 days left to live, what would you do? How would you live your life differently? Would you change anything?”

You see, we’re all terminally ill. Do we live like it?

Who is God?

Recently, I shared with some friends that I think heaven is going to be way, way, way more than we can ever imagine – and that our natural response when we get there will be worship.  Revelation 4-5 vaguelly describes this scene.
 
At any rate, as I've been processing some of these thoughts, I realized that our understanding of God is limited as well.  To help me in this processing, I have been reading the Psalms over the past few days and jotting down a list of words that describe God.  I'm looking forward to continuing this exercise in the days to come, but I thought I'd share what I've got so far:
 
Deliverer
Protector
Savior
Satisfier
Ever Present
The Answer
Rescuer
Refuge
Commander of angels
Most High
Faithful
Shield
Rampart
Almighty
Fortress
Lord
Love
Great
Profound
Exalted
Forever
Upright
Rock
King
Majestic
Strong
Mighty
Holy
Eternal
Avenger
Judge
Teacher
Discipliner
Creator
All Knowing
Destoyer
 
Feel free to comment or add to the list.

Psalm 84

What I read this morning just resonated with me…

1 How lovely is your dwelling place,
LORD Almighty!
2 My soul yearns, even faints,
for the courts of the LORD;
my heart and my flesh cry out
for the living God.

3 Even the sparrow has found a home,
and the swallow a nest for herself,
where she may have her young—
a place near your altar,
LORD Almighty, my King and my God.

4 Blessed are those who dwell in your house;
they are ever praising you.

5 Blessed are those whose strength is in you,
whose hearts are set on pilgrimage.

6 As they pass through the Valley of Baka,
they make it a place of springs;
the autumn rains also cover it with pools.

7 They go from strength to strength,
till each appears before God in Zion.

8 Hear my prayer, LORD God Almighty;
listen to me, God of Jacob.

9 Look on our shield, O God;
look with favor on your anointed one.

10 Better is one day in your courts
than a thousand elsewhere;
I would rather be a doorkeeper in the house of my God
than dwell in the tents of the wicked.

11 For the LORD God is a sun and shield;
the LORD bestows favor and honor;
no good thing does he withhold
from those whose walk is blameless.

12 LORD Almighty,
blessed are those who trust in you.

Packing for Heaven

Some recent events and conversations in my own life pointed me to this simple fact yesterday:
 
I can't take institutions, money, or stuff with me when I go to heaven.  The only thing that I can take from here is people.
 
So how do I live my life knowing this?  Great question. 
 
I think that I often underestimate God's power:
 
"Now to him who by the power at work within us is able to accomplish abundantly far more than all we can ask or imagine, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen."  Epheshians 3:20-21
 
Just something I'm thinkin' about…

The Raven Charter – Thousand Words


I’m very proud of my “little” brother, Erik. His band, The Raven Charter, just posted a new song on their mySpace page. Check out Thousand Words. Erik plays piano and acoustic guitar, and he also sings. I think it’s a great new song. I’m looking forward to more.

Mahna Mahna

I just posted this on facebook this morning. This is what I grew up on – Saturday nights. Maybe this explains it…
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A Man Who Will Be Missed – Millard Fuller

Today, the world lost a servant.  I was saddened today to learn that Millard Fuller, the founder of Habitat for Humanity, had passed away after a brief illness.  I had the privilege of meeting Mr. Fuller when he came and spoke at one the the Men's Lenten Breakfasts many years ago at First Presbyterian Church in Mt. Holly, NJ.  He left a big impression on me and an even bigger impression and lasting impact on the world.
 
Here's what CNN had to say about this amazing person:

ATLANTA, Georgia (CNN) — Millard Fuller, who founded Habitat for Humanity International along with his wife, has died, officials said Tuesday. He was 74.

Millard Fuller appears with President Bush at a Habitat for Humanity event in Tampa, Florida, in 2001.

Millard Fuller appears with President Bush at a Habitat for Humanity event in Tampa, Florida, in 2001.

Fuller died early Tuesday "after a brief illness," said a statement on the Web site of the organization he currently headed, Fuller Center for Housing, in Americus, Georgia.

"Family and friends are mourning the tragic loss of a great servant leader and a genuine heart," the statement said.

Fuller had suffered from chest congestion for three to four weeks, said Holly Chapman, spokeswoman for the Fuller Center. He died about 3 a.m. en route to a hospital, she said.

With his wife, Linda, Fuller founded Habitat for Humanity International in 1976.

The Alabama native rose "from humble beginnings" to become a "young, self-made millionaire," according to his biography on Habitat for Humanity's Web site. He and a college friend began a marketing firm while still in school, "but as his business prospered, his health, integrity and marriage suffered," the biography said.

"These crises prompted Fuller to re-evaluate his values and direction. His soul-searching led to reconciliation with his wife and to a renewal of his Christian commitment," it said.

The Fullers sold all their possessions, gave money to the poor and began searching for a new direction. They found Koinonia Farm, a Christian community near Americus in rural southwest Georgia, the biography said.

Along with Koinonia founder Clarence Jordan and a few others, the couple initiated several enterprises, among them a housing ministry that built modest homes on a no-interest, nonprofit basis and made them affordable to low-income families.

Homeowner families were expected to use their own labor to help defray costs on their home as well as homes for other families. Money to build homes was placed into a revolving fund, enabling more to be built, according to the biography.

In 1973, the Fullers moved to Africa to test their housing model, the biography said. Their project was launched in Zaire — now the Democratic Republic of the Congo — and was a success. "Fuller became convinced that this model could be expanded and applied all over the world," the biography said.

When Fuller returned to the United States three years later, he met with a group of associates to create Habitat for Humanity International. According to its Web site, Habitat has provided shelter for more than 1.5 million people in more than 3,000 communities.

"I see life as both a gift and a responsibility. My responsibility is to use what God has given me to help his people in need," Fuller once said, according to Habitat's Web site.

Former President Carter, a key Habitat supporter, fellow Georgian and a close friend, issued a statement Tuesday saying Fuller "was one of the most extraordinary people I have ever known."

"He used his remarkable gifts as an entrepreneur for the benefit of millions of needy people around the world by providing them with decent housing," Carter said. "As the founder of Habitat for Humanity and later the Fuller Center, he was an inspiration to me, other members of our family and an untold number of volunteers who worked side-by-side under his leadership."

In 1996, President Clinton awarded Fuller the Presidential Medal of Freedom, the nation's highest civilian honor, calling Habitat "the most successful continuous community service project in the history of the United States."

Fuller left Habitat for Humanity in 2005 amid a dispute with the organization's board. Habitat said in a statement at the time his termination culminated "several months of differences between the Fullers and the board over allegations of inappropriate personal behavior of Millard Fuller toward a now-former female employee," according to an article in the February 2005 edition of Christianity Today magazine.

The organization noted there was insufficient evidence to corroborate the complaint, according to Christianity Today, but said Fuller engaged in "a pattern of ongoing public comments and communications … that have been divisive and disruptive to the organization's work."

For his part, Fuller told the magazine he feared the board used the controversy to push him out to find a "high-paid bean counter" instead of someone with "strong Christian commitment."

"We've overloaded the board with 'money' people, all of whom are nominal Christians, but many of whom are not spiritually grounded," he told the magazine. "Some seem put off by my overt declaration of Jesus."

After his departure, Fuller founded the Fuller Center for Housing, which its Web site describes as "a nonprofit, ecumenical Christian housing ministry dedicated to eliminating poverty housing worldwide."

The center was founded after Fuller "set out to expand his missionary vision" by returning to his roots at Koinonia Farm, a cooperative community dedicated to peace and service.

A new mission statement was issued at Koinonia dedicating the Fuller Center as "a Christ-centered, faith-driven organization witnessing the love of God by providing opportunities for families to have a simple, decent place to live," according to the site.

Funeral services are scheduled for Wednesday, said Chapman, the Fuller Center spokeswoman. Fuller will be buried at Koinonia Farm, according to the center's Web site.