Everybody is looking for validation, no matter who you are, and I think that’s a need of the human condition – to look for affection or recognition or validation.
Alejandro Gonzalez Inarritu
Over the weekend, my wife and I went to see The Wizard of Oz at the Walnut Street Theater.
I’ve seen the movie dozens of time, and the musical held true to the movie with a few additions.
In the story, Dorothy is looking for a way back home. The Scarecrow is looking for a brain. The Tin Man is looking for a heart. And the Lion is looking for courage.
At the end of the story, the Wizard provides a diploma for the Scarecrow, a heart clock for the Tin Man, a medal of bravery for the Lion, and an offer of a balloon ride home for Dorothy.
With these gifts, the Scarecrow begins to think, the Tin Man begins to love, and the Lion begins to believe in himself. (And Dorothy begins to realize the blessing of her home and family in Kansas.)
The Wizard didn’t really give the Scarecrow a brain, the Tin Man a heart, and the Lion valor. He simply spoke into their lives and expressed belief in them. He validated them as creatures who bring value to the Land of Oz.
Do you believe in yourself? Or do you struggle with confidence, fear, and acceptance?
We all need to be validated. We all need someone to speak into our lives – someone to believe in us. We need someone who can tell us we can do it.
Who is that person for you?
My parents have validated me since I was a little boy telling me I was smart, caring, and capable.
My boss at work has validated me since I started working at Siemens over 20 years ago encouraging me to pursue my dreams and challenging me to step into new opportunities.
My wife has validated me since we met reminding me that I am loved.
And honestly, you have validated me letting me know that my words matter and that they are worth reading. (Thank you!)
We all need to be validated.
What happens when this kind of validation is missing from our lives?
We lose our way. We find ourselves wandering and lost. We don’t live our lives to the fullest. We become voices of doubt and negativity for those around us.
I don’t want to live this way. I want to live with intention. I want to live a life that matters. And I want to be a voice of positivity for others in this world.
Finding validation is critical to our lives. Here are a few suggestions for find the validation you need:
3 Ways To Find The Validation You Really Need
- Look to the ultimate “Validator.” Look to God. Remember, He created you, and He created you for a purpose. He loves you. He sent His Son to die for you. You matter to God. This isn’t meant to be cliché.
- Surround yourself with encouragers. Look for people who lift each other up, and find ways to hang out with these people. Jim Rohn says “You are the average of the five people you hang out with the most.” Hang out with people who will encourage you.
- Avoid the naysayers. You may need to separate yourself from people who consistently tell you “You can’t.” Negative people will suck you into their negativity, and they will prevent you from feeling good about who you are and why you are here.
Finally, I’m guessing there are people in your life who struggle with feelings of inadequacy, feelings of doubt, and feelings of despair. Take time to be a voice of validation in their lives.
Find the good in others, and help them see it for themselves.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:14
Do you struggle with self-doubt and self-worth? How have you overcome these feelings? Share your thoughts in the comments.