“Everyone needs a coach. It doesn’t matter whether you’re a basketball player, a tennis player, a gymnast or a bridge player.”Bill Gates
A coach guides, instructs, mentors, and sets an example.
You are on a journey in which you have not yet arrived. You need someone who has gone in front of you who can share their wisdom which they have gained from their experiences, training, and education. You need a coach who can encourage you especially when you are lost or discouraged. And you need a coach who will spur you on when our motivation is diminished.
Open your eyes and your ears. Your coach is possibly right in front of you. Look for someone who has experience or training in the area(s) in which you are striving. Listen for those who clearly have knowledge and also a solid reputation. Do some research and discover your options. Then ask. Finding a coach requires action on your part. You must ask for help. Pick up the phone and call your potential coach. Go out together for a walk or a cup of coffee. Finding your coach will most likely require your intentional action.
Now! That’s the short answer. You need a coach when you are tired of complacency. You need a coach when you need help taking the next step (or steps) on your journey. You need a coach when you want to go to the next level.
You could find someone willing to be your coach for free, and that might work for a little while. But I want to encourage you to consider paying for coaching. When you pay for coaching, you are far more likely to take the coaching serious and to take the prescribed action to move forward in your journey. Additionally, your coach is spending their time and resources to provide coaching to you. This costs something. In my experience, coaching can cost anywhere from a few hundred dollars for a few coaching sessions to several thousand dollars for day-long or week-long one-on-one intensive coaching. Paying a coach is worth it!
That’s right! I’d love to be your coach. I have a passion for helping men take their next steps forward – steps to becoming a better father, steps to becoming a better husband, steps in their career, and even steps in their faith. As a husband of over 23 years, a father of 22 years, a business leader, and a committed follower of Christ, I have wisdom worth sharing. I’ve also gained knowledge from many who have coached me. Most recently, I’ve coached many men through the Stretched Men Group mastermind group, and I know I can help you.
I’m currently offering three levels of coaching:
Stretch Player Level: This is my bi-weekly, three month semester Stretched Men Group mastermind group. This coaching opportunity allows men to connect with each other in a safe environment that helps each man stretch forward. Men who have participated in this level of coaching have taken steps forward in their families, their marriages, their careers, and their faith. This is a great place to plug into coaching.
Stretch All-Star Level: This is six (6) hour-long sessions one-on-one with me. These sessions will involve thought provoking coaching conversations with actionable outcomes. This is a great level to consider if you are ready to go further faster.
Stretch MVP/VIP Level: This is a full one day experience with me. From breakfast to dinner, we will spend the entire day together mapping out a plan to go to the next level and beyond. This day which includes three meals will be a more intensive opportunity for coaching. We will spend time understanding your current place and challenge. We will vision cast your life goals and mission. We will specifically analyze your priorities, your personal schedule, and the obstacles you may be facing keeping you from stretching to your potential. Finally, we will develop an action plan necessary to move forward. This coaching level includes three follow-up calls designed to make sure you are on track with your action plan. It’s also an opportunity to make adjustments to help you move forward.
For more information, stop over to StretchedMenGroup.com. This will give you more information about Stretch Player Level (Stretched Men Group). I will be adding more information to these site soon about all three levels. In the meantime, sign-up over at the website for a free, no-obligation phone call with me. This will give us the opportunity to talk about coaching and which level might be a good fit for you.
Call of the Wild is a classic book which I had never read before this year. The book tells the story of a dog named Buck who gets thrust into a whole new world – a wild world – when someone steals him from his comfy home and sells him to dog sled drivers.
Without giving the whole story away, Buck quickly adapts to his new settings and eventually gains a leadership role over a pack of sled dogs. A the story continues, Buck actually comes to realize his calling – a calling to the wild.
Recognizing our calling can sometimes be easy but more often takes time, energy, and even failure from time to time.
Last month, I shared Brian Jones’ definition of calling:
You could say that Buck had a passion for the wild. He developed the skill for the wild. And he was given the opportunity to go into the wild.
As we kick-off 2019, it’s a great time for you to consider your calling. It make take some time to figure it out. I challenge you to pursue it. Go after your finding your calling with all you’ve got. You don’t want to waste your life never finding your calling.
If you need help figuring out your next steps, I’d love to help you. Spots for the next semester of the Stretched Men Group are open and will fill up quickly. Go to www.stretchedmengroup.com now, and sign up for more information (you are not committing to the group just yet).
Don’t let 2019 be just another year. STRETCH yourself. Get outside your comfort zone. Take that next step.
The next semester of the Stretched Men Group is getting ready to start, and men are getting ready to STRETCH their marriages, their parenting, their careers, their faith, and their lives.
You don’t want to miss the opportunity to be part of the Stretched Men Group!
The Stretched Men Group provides a safe, transforming environment to help men like you take steps forward. Here are some of the ways the group has helped other men:
One man started praying for his ex-wife.
One man started taking his family back to church.
One man changed jobs.
One man had a tough conversation with his wife that transformed his relationship.
One man had a difficult conversation with his co-worker that led to a job change.
One man tackled a pornography addiction.
One man started reading his Bible on a daily basis.
One man reached out to his estranged sons.
One man took his marriage and sex-life to a whole new level.
If you’re looking to STRETCH and experience this kind of change in your life, you should join the next semester of the Stretched Men Group. For more information, go to www.stretchedmengroup.com. Once you are there, you can request a FREE, no pressure informational call with me to see if the Stretched Men Group is right for you.
Don’t wait too long, the spots will fill up fast.
Tonight, the current semester of the Stretched Men Group men’s mastermind group ends. This semester, we have been working through Mark Batterson’s book, Play the Man. The book has provided excellent perspective on seven virtues men should have to become the man God created us to be.
I’ve been encouraged to watch participants take significant steps forward in their journeys of becoming the men they were meant to be. And it’s been helpful to have Batterson’s perspective as we’ve navigated these waters together.
Signups are underway for the next semester of the Stretched Men Group which is scheduled to start in February.
During the upcoming semester, I will be taking the teaching time to walk through 7 Pitfalls Men Face. Here they are (and yes they all start with the letter ‘P’):
During the first 10-15 minutes of each session, we will talk about these pitfalls and about the things we need to overcome these traps. I’m excited to prepare for our time together, and I’m excited to help men STRETCH.
If you are a man, you struggle with one or more of these common pitfalls. If you want to take the next step in overcoming these traps, I’d encourage you to check out the Stretched Men Group.
And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching. Hebrews 10:24-25
In the story of Pinocchio, a wooden puppet comes to life and gets to play with the girls and boys. Despite his ability to talk, to move, to jump and play, Pinocchio is plagued by one desire. He wants to become a real boy.
In today’s world, it’s not that much different, there are a lot of men out there who are confused. They want to be real men, but they simply don’t know how.
Society is sending them conflicting messages. In the pursuit of keeping up with the Jones’, men are distracted from their true calling.
Deep down inside, men want to be the best husbands they can be for their wives. They want to be the best fathers they can be for their children. They want to be the heroes this world needs them to be. Men want to be real men.
Does this sound like you?
Marcus Aurelius seemed to know that men have a deep desire to live as they are meant to live. Wouldn’t it be amazing if every man got this? Wouldn’t it be incredible if every man unchained themselves from the expectations that feel others are putting on them.
I want to help you become a real man. I want to help you figure out the next steps you need to take on your journey to becoming a real man.
Over the past couple of years, I have had the privilege of leading men on this journey through the Stretched Men Group. This mastermind group for men is all about helping men stretch into the men they were meant to be.
The group meets every other week for a three-month semester. Each meeting lasts about an hour-long (sometimes a little longer). Zoom (video meeting software) is used for these meetings. The guys in the group are committed to learning and taking action to become real men. When we meet, I typically teach for 10-15 minutes on a relevant topic to becoming a real man. Then we take the rest of the time to wrestle through one of your issues as a group (we call this the Hot Seat).
Guys who have participated in the group so far have made significant changes in their jobs, in their marriages, in their relationships with their kids, and in their faith.
Spots are now open for the next semester of the Stretched Men Group, and I’d love to have you in the group.
To find out more, simply fill out the form below (or go to www.stretchedmengroup.com). Once you fill out the form, I will reach out to you to schedule a FREE 30 minute call where I can answer any additional questions you have about the group.
This week, I had the honor of being a guest on Amy Robles’ podcast – Think Enriched with Amy Robles.
Do me a favor, and give the episode a listen. (Then consider subscribing to Amy’s podcast.)
“Oh I get by with a little help from my friends…”
With a Little Help From My Friends (Billy Shears)
When you read the lyrics to this song made popular by Joe Cocker and The Beatles, you can see it might be a song promoting drugs and the experience of “getting high with a little help from my friends.” I choose to interpret the song as a reminder of the need for a helping hand in our lives from time to time.
“Everybody needs a helping hand
Take a look at your fellow man
And tell me what can I do today
‘Cause everybody needs a helping out
If that ain’t what it’s all about”
Amy Grant (Helping Hand)
Maybe this song is a bit more appropriate.
The bottom line is this: We all need people in our lives who will encourage us, lift us, and push us to become the people we were meant to become.
The main reason I started the Stretched Men Group mastermind group for men was to provide a helping hand to men who want to become better husbands, better fathers, and better leaders. We are a week and a half away from the start of the next semester of the group, and I want to make sure you don’t miss out on the opportunity to get the helping hand you need right now.
(The next group starts on Thursday, September 21st and will run for three months.)
A few years ago, I joined a mastermind group for entrepreneurs. This group gives me a place to share my ideas and to get the feedback I need to keep moving forward. It’s also a place where I can help other entrepreneurs as they process their next steps. I haven’t been disappointed with the experience so far.
Last year, I launched my own mastermind group. After wise advice and consistent encouragement, I started the Stretched Men Group. This mastermind group is all about encouraging guys to become better men, better husbands, and better fathers. The group runs for three-month semesters. After each semester, mastermind members have the opportunity to continue on with the group (or not), and new members have the opportunity to jump into the group.
The next semester is getting ready to kick off in the middle of this month, and there are still a few open spots. I’d love to fill the spots with guys who want to take the next steps in their journey. If you’d like to find out more information about the group, I’d encourage you to go over to the groups website (click here) and sign up for a FREE informational (no pressure) phone call from me.
In the meantime, I’d encourage you to check out this video from my friend, Ray Edwards. In the video, Ray offers some fantastic tips about what to look for in a GREAT mastermind group.
If you’re looking to experience these five essentials and your path to becoming the man you were meant to be, I’d encourage you to check out the Stretched Men Group.
I remember watching my daughter in her toddler years as she learned new things every day. She often said, “I can do it all by myself!” She wanted her independence at an early age, and she has continued to pursue this independence into her collegiate career.
She is not alone in this pursuit of independence. I’m a person who wants to figure things out for myself. I don’t like the feeling of having to rely on others. Frankly, I want to be in control.
This pursuit of independence is a blessing and a curse. It’s great to be able to do things by oneself; however, we miss out on the opportunity to rub shoulders with others when we become too independent.
Society tells us to be self-reliant. Individual accomplishment is recognized and rewarded.
Here’s the problem: Our pursuit of independence can push us away from the community for which we were made. As we shy away from community, we miss the opportunity to collaborate with others, to build life-giving relationships, and to explore areas of life that we simply would miss on our own.
With whom are you spending the most time these days? Are they lifting you up? Are they STRETCHING you? Are they encouraging you?
Are you spending time with anyone who is causing you to grow?
If you are a woman looking for this kind of community, check out one of these links:
If you need help finding a group, let me know. I’d love to help you connect with others who can STRETCH you!
This week I’ll be sending out a series of emails about the importance of being in this type of community. If you want to make sure you get these emails, sign up here:
Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12
Yesterday was a busy day at the office. I spent most of the day reviewing a project our sales team is trying to get. In these cases, my job is to make sure the sales team has included the right amount of labor in their estimates, and I check to see if they’ve considered different aspects of the project that might come up as the project moves from start to finish. In a way, I am a sounding board for our sales team to make sure they go into a project with our best feet forward.
After I finished reviewing the job, I made it back to my desk for a few minutes before heading over to the office of one of my co-workers. I needed to touch base with him on a small issue, and we hadn’t had time to talk all day. As we finished talking about my issue, he asked if he could run something by me. Without going into details, he was wrestling with an issue, and he was trying to figure out how to address it.
We talked about the possible outcomes based on the different ways he could proceed. I did some of the talking, but he did a lot of talking. At the end of the conversation, he had settled on a path forward. I think he knew the right answer all along, but he needed a sounding board.
One of the things I love about being in mastermind groups is that I get to use the group as a sounding board and they get to use me as a sounding board. The people in the group listen to my issues, and they give me feedback. Ultimately, they help me get to an answer to move me forward. I get the opportunity to do the same for the other members in the group.
If you are wrestling with questions about how to become a better husband, a better father, or a better man, you should consider signing up for the Stretched Men Group. This is a mastermind group that I facilitate that helps men takes the next step or two in their journey. If you need a sounding board, this might just be the group for you.
To find out more about the group, visit stretchedmengroup.com. After looking at the site, sign up for a free (no obligation, no pressure) call with me to see if this group is right for you.
The Stretched Men Group has made a big difference for several men and their families, and I’m getting ready to launch the next semester (3 month commitment).